A lot of time will pass until we all learn some valuable lessons in life. Often, we end up used, manipulated, hurt, or unhappy just because we have wasted too much energy or emotions on things or people that didn’t deserve it.
Therefore, the sooner you make the necessary change, the happier you will become.
Here are five things you should stop doing immediately:
1. Fearing change
People are naturally resistant to change, but change is crucial for growth. To make things better, you need to make a change.
It can be scary, but if you get rid of the irrational fear, you will seize opportunities that would have never come about otherwise. So, end the toxic relationship, switch career, or move to a bigger city.
2. Trying to please everyone
We often try hard to please others, so we pretend to agree with everyone, do everything we can to avoid them get angry with us, and do not admit that they have hurt our feelings.
No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone that does not like you. You should be your own priority, so make sure you please yourself first. If you are a good person, you are already doing enough. So, stop trying to make everyone but yourself happy.
3. Putting yourself down
You are important, beautiful, unique, and wonderful. Never put yourself down.
“Turn down the volume of your negative inner voice and create a nurturing inner voice to take its place. When you make a mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on instead of obsessing about it. Equally important, don’t allow anyone else to dwell on your mistakes or shortcomings or to expect perfection from you.”-Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused — And Start Standing Up for Yourself
Allow your mind to relax, just like you rest your body. You will never solve your problems by constantly thinking about them. Instead, you will just focus on negativity, and it will leave you unable to find a constructive solution to the issue.
“Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis. It’s important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.”– Robert Herjavec
5. Living in the past
You will start living life to the fullest when you learn to live in the present moment. Dwelling on past mistakes doesn’t fix or change anything. The past is no longer here, it is just a lesson you need to learn, and nothing more. No matter how long you mourn it, you cannot change what happened, so move on.
“To get over the past, you first have to accept that the past is over. No matter how many times you revisit it, analyze it, regret it, or sweat it…it’s over. It can hurt you no more.”- Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass